Never tell jackson to do anything.
Also, note to self: figure out how to get him to do what you want without telling him what to do. I really want to either help him get over this while he's young or train myself to help him in a more effective way. When I tried to teach him how to swim this summer he was totally doing better at the beginning than he is now after 5 or 6 days of swimming. The more I push, the more he resists. At the beginning of the summer after a few attempts he would put his face in the water, push away from the wall, breathe, put his face back in the water and keep swimming til he got to me. I got too pushy. Today we just got back from the pool. It hasn't bee 2 weeks since he was doing the good swimming. He never got out of the baby pool. He told me 2 days ago that he never wanted to swim. Ok, swimming is a big deal but it's not the biggest deal. What about when we get to issues like grades, church activities, RELIGION. These are really big deals.
I mean you would think that your kids would automatically be better than you because you can teach them all the things you know and then they learn more than that. right? totally not the case.
How do I help a child experience life moment by moment for himself and dealing with the fact that he's not going to trust me to just tell him what's worth his effort and time?
maybe exposure?
